Relationships are meant to bring support, warmth, and joy into your life. It often happens that situations you deal with in a relationship are difficult to understand or even worse cause anxiety. These are the so-called “red flags” that we will discuss below.
Elizabeth Stone, a coach on transforming yourself into a better version, notes that men can drain you emotionally and mentally in subtle ways which are usually not instantly obvious.
She identifies 12 main signs:
1. You constantly justify his behavior, seek explanations why he let you down or deceived you.
2. He always acts selfishly, his interests always come first and yours are always of no importance.
3. He disguises his insults as jokes and humor and accuses you of being overly sensitive.
4. His attention is addictive, you feel a rush of emotions when he is around, and deep disappointment when he ignores you.
5. He gives you “emotional crumbs” . It means that sometimes he disappears and acts as if nothing happened.
6. He loses interest in you. In this situation deep conversations fade away, and attention only shows up when you are there.
7. When you truly need him most he is nowhere to be found because he is always busy.
8. He frequently disrupts plans, leaves your agreements mere intentions and makes you feel uncertain.
9. You doubt your own perception because of his mood swings and constant manipulation.
10. He makes excuses with past traumas – manipulates your emotions, making you feel guilty.
11. He sets impossibly high standards, criticizes, finds faults and devalues everything you do.
12. You constantly have to seek his attention but his support and acknowledgement are becoming incredibly rare.
The expert notes: If you recognize several of these signs in your partner, you should look at your the relationship carefully and put your own mental and physical well- being first, because as her many years of practice show, relationships like this seldom end well and delaying action may require you to seek professional psychological support.
